Hotwife
I believe this title already tells you it all. But to not end it here, I will unfold a little more.
Family and luxury were the main goals of a regular masculine being, but through regular means they turned out to be mutually exclusive.
Hotwife puts it all together. You can have a partner for serious life and, at the same time, a partner for nasty things.
Of course it comes with a price, a heavy burden. One of them is the need for disclosure. I know there are a lot of couples that live this lifestyle openly, but I will not go deep into that at this point. I will just say that it is not my thing.
On early stages#
Since I was a kid, I have liked dominant women. In the fighting games I remember, I was drawn to the female characters. Many had provocative moves and an edgy attitude. None of them are real, of course, and real women are much more complex beings than any teenage game ever managed to portray.
The dominant woman who beats men in a fight is obviously a fantasy. The real woman tames the male by other means. They harness the male desire to their benefit. This I could observe in the BDSM world. The pro domme is a phenomenon that proves the point.
Far from BDSM, with a lot of gadgets and liturgy, rule makers and masters of none, I found out another world, inside the cuckold and hotwife dynamics.
When I saw a woman making a straight man lick another man’s semen off her, I immediately acknowledged: “That is the real power.” Capable of bending a man’s ego for her own dominant pleasure.
It has become more common than I could imagine#
I have observed this dynamic growing in popularity over the years. Some statistics show that this has been one of the most common fantasies. Maybe pornography has an effect on these numbers, because when we watch porn it is almost a cuckold/voyeur experience? Or maybe the women’s ascension in the job market frees them to set their own conditions?
I don’t claim to have general answers. I can just talk about me.
Inside me, this grew from some experiences and from contact with this kind of porn and with paid sex.
Psychologically, licking the pussy of sex workers to make myself hard had a humbling effect on me. I had difficulty getting ready for sex, and oral always got me ready.
Many times I imagined how much that pussy had been pumped while I was bent over between her legs. It used to make me hard as a rock.
Over time, watching some erotic content, I started to appreciate regular women, married ones, who cheat their partners.
It makes me curious about the reasons and motivations behind it. I talked with some of them. Most of them complained about the frequency of sex with their husbands. Many had no occupation, just housewives with full time to think about sex while their partners worked too much.
I can relate to this. The man is exhausted after too much work, and the woman has her needs. I fit too well into this role as a man who works too much, always worried about work and about the job instability of these days.
These dirty secrets turn me on. They are raw needs hidden behind an honest facade. Maintaining the respectable image of a traditional marriage while secretly indulging in unbridled lust is too classy for me.
The better scenario#
I have seen a variety of hotwives, from low to high class. But in the highest class is where I found the most exciting couples.
For me, this image of an elegant, well educated woman who secretly has her adventures is awesome. It made me imagine well made, detailed lingerie, topless with hats on a rich people’s beach, masks, and so on.
When consent and discretion are the goals, nothing is more exciting than bringing another male home for the wife to enjoy. In the house, watch your wife being really hot, being pleased by two.
In this scenario, we can also include elements of submission and dominance. Such as when the husband is the submissive part and helps them enjoy the moment. The queen figure prevails here most of the time. Oral sex becomes part of a submission ritual, before or after penetration.
On Reddit, I have seen many exhibitionist couples. I think it is probably the first step to encourage them to go deeper. The woman starts to get used to more provocative underwear and to receive public validation while preserving her identity. On the other hand, the man starts to realize what it would be like to have possible competitors and how to deal with feelings of jealousy.
The complications#
I have many concerns about these next steps. There are many risks.
The woman can be seduced. She can lose the sexual interest in me once she acquires other tastes. Maybe after she proves herself with a real big dick, the old dynamics with my 15cm will be broken forever.
Meeting a trustworthy third partner will be very important. For a man, it means a trust that the bull won’t steal his woman from him. For the woman, it means that the bull will be gentle and patient.
Maybe, for the next step, I should embrace the possibility that my relationship could turn into a totally different dynamic. And accept things that slip out of my control.
Maybe the other guy threatens her in a way I would disapprove of. It is a thing I will have to deal with. Maybe he is not even a black guy or a big stud, stereotypes that are part of my fantasy.
Final words#
After all, writing down all these thoughts can help me clarify my own desires and the possible consequences, so I can balance them. Aside from my personal fantasy about it, I really think she needs to enjoy these experiences too, as the partner I choose to share my future with.